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Happiest Minds Technologies a new generation IT services company has listed six important qualities that they would look for from each prospective employee.  I am sure it is greatly very relevant for any organisation and every job seeker should know in detail.

Six Important Qualities for Job Seekers – SMILES

1. SHARING:
A person who is a team player, who is willing to share knowledge and help others

2. MINDFULNESS:
Someone who is attentive, caring and heedful.

3. INTEGRITY:
Every Happiest Mind should respect commitments, not just in letter but also in spirit and should exhibit professional, social and financial integrity.

4. LEARNING:
A person who is willing to acquire new skills and knowledge continuously and consistently

5. EXCELLENCE:
High aspirations for excellence backed by a strong action orientation

6. SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY:
A responsible corporate citizen who is aware of her/his environmental responsibility; someone who is willing to give back to the community.

I am sure, one with these qualities/skills will not be the job seeker, instead great jobs will seek him/her.

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One of my earlier articles in October 2007, was on “Doing What We Love Vs Loving What We Do”. Last evening I just remembered this post and was looking back at what I’ve written then, almost 3 years ago.

Indeed the same page I’ve mentioned is still present in my journal with dog’s ears now, I don’t know how many thousand times I have read this again and again and again….

It goes like this:

“Siva, you are here to do what you love to do, don’t ever settle for anything less than doing what you really love.”

These words kept me moving ahead in life all these years, towards what I love. At this juncture of my life, I am very happy that I’ve come close to what I love and very excited that I am going to start my journey in The Road Less Traveled.

I’ve heard motivational gurus saying “Come on, just go ahead and do what you love. If you do it the best, it will automatically pay you great results”. But unfortunately the reality to me was not that simple. I had my own commitments in life, need to build a house at my native town, my sister’s wedding, my aging parents to take care, my wife’s expectations, social compulsions and so on. It was not really easy to just jump out and start doing what I love simply because I love. It took very long and careful planning, considering all the problems and constraints around in life. I took one step at a time slowly and steadily towards my goal. Now I see, the present situation in my life is a one big step I am taking with all the learning’s I had from all the previous small steps I had come across in life.

Here are some tips from my own life experience on how to get towards what you love?

1. Find your passion:
Do a thorough self analysis to identify all about your great love in life. Just think about “what you are greatly passionate about?” , “what you are keenly interested in?” , “what you would love to do for the rest of your life with fullest potential and abundant happiness?”, “what you would think about, talk about and diligently do for hours together?”

2. Find your finances:
Ultimately your finances is what this world looks for to determine your success? If you have that big car, luxury home, big bank balance etc. then you are considered to be a very successful person in this society irrespective of how happy you are in life. Think about the real happiness that you are going to get from doing what you love to do. But also don’t forget that, this world runs on economics and money is an essential commodity to live here.

It’s really worth spending time to understand, how you are going to economically sustain doing what you love. Will people pay for what you are going to do…? What is the value you are going to add to yourself and the people around you…?

3. Find your core strengths:
Now you are 100% convinced with what you want to do and how it is going to add value. Next is, to look for your strengths that would naturally take you towards what you love. Look out for the unique strengths, qualities and abilities you have. Take a genuine feedback about yourself from your parents, siblings, teachers, friends and colleagues. Ask them what are the things those you are good at and naturally talented at. Identify, nurture and develop those strengths.

4. Find your weaknesses:
This is a very important and critical step. I am sure Ignorance is definitely not a bless in case of one’s weakness. Becoming aware of your own weakness and accepting your own limitations is the first step to conquer and overcome them effectively. Ask for very critical and frank opinions from people around, take the critical feedback very graciously, which will enable you to work on them. Identify, scrap them if not really useful and work on it to improve upon if it is going to be of use in life.

5. Have the commitment:
Not having that sincere commitment and dedication towards your own goal is a great recipe for failure in life. Have an uncompromising commitment towards what you want to achieve and keep working diligently towards your goal without any procrastination in life. Think about the words from Brian Tracy, “Do something each day about your goal such that you move an inch closer towards your goal at the end of the day”.

Ultimately “It’s not what you say, but what you do that counts.”

6. Don’t ignore the present:
Don’t forget the task at hand by just dreaming about the future. Remember that there will be no energy, enthusiasm and fun in pursuing the dreams when there is a sense of dissatisfaction about what you have at present. Yes, you may not love your work at present; irrespective of that learn to do the work at present with 100% diligence. Think about the saying “There is always a choice about the way we do our work, even if there is not much choice about the work itself.”

While accomplishing the tasks at present, look out for ways in which you can work towards your ultimate goal in life.

7. Get ready to give up:
If you are fully occupied and busy in life, then how are you going to spend time for what you love?. Make priorities accordingly and learn to give up certain comforts and explore new areas in life. Without touching that extra mile nothing is achieved in this world. Remember, “No Pain, No Gain”.

Don’t get stuck in your old patterns of thinking and ways of doing things. As we say in NLP, “If you are not getting the result you want, do something different.”

Take out your weekends, evenings and free time from your day job in learning, thinking and doing something about what you love to do. Pursue it like a very serious and sincere hobby. I am sure you would be able to turn your hobby into a full time profession one day in the future.

8. Have a strong belief in yourself:
Have a very strong belief in yourself, what you love to do and what you want to become. You may want to become a great singer, excellent painter, wonderful photographer, awesome dancer, great teacher, inspiring public speaker. Just call yourself with that name/title, make your future visiting cards already, talk to people as if you are one already. Have keen interest about it and seek to learn from whatever ways you could and share your insights. Ultimately have a very great self confidence and belief in yourself such that, nothing in this world can change that.

There could be much more that the tips above based upon where you are now at present in life and what you love to do in life. Always remember the words of Robert Frost in his Stopping by Woods, “The woods are lovely, dark, and deep, But I have promises to keep, And miles to go before I sleep.”

If you have that irresistible passion within, I am sure no one or nothing can stop you from reaching what you want in life.

My heartfelt wishes to you in the wonderful journey of doing what you love to do in life. I assure you that, Anbusivam.com will always be there for your motivation and support.

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Anbusivam

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My thoughts in this post was lying in the draft for quite a long time. With recent developments of corruption and nepotism bringing down the political class of our country to the least respected level, I thought of publishing this now.

For years together money and power thirsty politicians has pursued short sighted vote bank economic policies that have literally degraded the lives of common man in this country. In today’s globalised economy, government focuses most of it’s policies mainly towards the economically upper class industrialists and businessmen. Reason being they are few in number with direct access and ability to influence the government agencies, bureaucrats and politicians, where as common man to whom these politicians come begging for votes once in a while are busy toiling there to meet their ends. Unfortunately these same corrupt babus are authorised to decide everything for this nation and sadly all is done purely with their own personal interest at the highest priority. The irony is they themselves could decide upon their own salary and perks, they themselves could decide upon their judicial proceedings, they could decide upon the bureaucrats they want to work with and so on that none of us could do.

One young student when asked to define democracy said,

“Democracy atleast in India is, of the politicians by the politicians and for the politicians.

This is the kind of respect and dignity that the political class has got among the younger generation of this country. Clearly we could see in the television debates these days that, not even a single politician is demonstrating the courage enough to answer the allegations directly. Every one is pointing fingers at the others saying “even they have done corruption”, but where is the answer for what you and your members have done….? Nothing, No Answer…!!!

I think as a country we have labeled politics as service to the society. During the days of independence people entering into politics were considered to be sacrificing their personal and family priorities for the sake of National priorities. Now even after so many decades of independence our politicians still think that they are doing a great service to the people and the society, while actually doing all possible things to keep their personal priorities on the top. I believe that this irony of thought and action should be fundamentally changed among the politicians.

We human beings are filled with thoughts of irony and actions of hypocrisy. We first do the worst things that will literally rape this mother earth, over use, misuse, abuse her resources and then hold conferences and meetings to save earth. We first create situations that will lead to violence, fight, war and then we strive to achieve peace. In the same way, we first blindly vote to elect these corrupt politicians to power and try to set them right later on when things go out of hand. And this hypocrisy among the people of this nation should be fundamentally changed.

Here is my ten point agenda to clean up the dirty politics in this country:

1. First and foremost let’s have a bare and naked transparency in every part of our political system. Political parties must disclose the reasons based on which they are selecting the candidates for elections. Their educational qualifications, political and leadership experience, zero criminal records, their asset and property details (this should be disclosed to public both at the start and end of their terms) should be clearly available to the voters.

2. Make sure that the government spends each and every penny involved in the election process. Let the government allocate funds to every candidate and make sure nothing more is spent towards campaigning and so on during the election. Allowing political parties to spend money as much as they want is the very basic need for them to get that back, earn more and more for the forthcoming elections in all illegal ways and means.

3. Make sure that the elected representatives are considered as executives of a company, who is accountable, must perform and deliver the promises every time on time. Make sure they stop talking, but fold up their sleeves and get into action.

4. If an elected representative is accused of misusing power, he or she must have the moral responsibility to step down from the power/office and prove his/her innocence to the law of this land. If they prove to be innocent, the ones who raised the false accusations should be punished accordingly.

5. If any elected representative is proved to be guilty then they should be severely punished in an exemplary manner and must be banned from entering into politics for their entire life time.

6. Bring in a Zero Tolerance policy towards the corruption and nepotism not only in politics, bureaucracy and business but at all levels in this country.

7. Politics and business should be totally isolated from each other and make sure that the politicians occupying offices and policy makers should no way posses any other commercial or business interests.

8. Ensure that the national interest and common man’s welfare is kept at the utmost priority for every decisions taken and every action done by the people in power.

9. Kin and kith of the politicians should no way be allowed to take over their political parties unless they deserve that purely out of their own hard work and sincere efforts from the lower levels of the party.

10. Last but not least, make voting a compulsory exercise in this country. Make it a compulsory process and allow the people to choose any one candidate or reject all of them. Make use of the technology to maintain a very clean and transparent list of voters database. We the people of this great nation should remember the words of Plato “the punishment suffered by the wise who refuse to take part in the government, is to suffer under the government of bad men”

Let’s all come together to clean up the rotten political system in this country and make our nation a great place to live atleast for the generations to come.

SAVE INDIA…!!!

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Anbusivam

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Completing my Diploma in Counselling Skills from Banjara Academy last year gave me a great feeling. I said to myself “Yeah, I am a counsellor now, I can solve anyone’s problem and I’ll be the savior for every one around”. But it didn’t take much time to understand the truth. As a counselor I could only provide all possible support in enabling them to sort out their own issues.

Dr.Ali and Mr.Raja gave us thorough knowledge and excellent training on all basic counselling skills required to understand, empathise and support people in any circumstance. Using this as a platform I decided to proceed further in a specialised facet of counselling where I could concentrate more particularly on to a specific area in human relationship so as to focus more in detail and depth.

I decided to focus and learn further on Marital Counselling. To my best I got married at this right time and it’s been really wonderful to learn the minute details of a very close relationship in life. Thanks to my dearest wife Sangeetha.

The most inevitable issue in any relation is handling conflicts. Especially in a marital relationship conflicts are supposed to be integral part of life. Things would be pretty fine as long as two are just friends, lovers or colleagues, but when the same relation is taken to a very close and intimate relationship such as marriage obviously one cannot hide behind the a mask of being too good for long time. Very soon the bare personality of oneself has to come out and if that is not what the other person expects, there starts a huge problem in the relationship.

First and fore most decide if you want to resolve the conflict or dissolve the relationship. Resolving the conflicts amicably is the most critical necessity in a marital relationship or else the relationship will cease to dissolve.

Few tips to avoid conflicts or to handle them in a better way are:

• Communicate, Communicate and Communicate.

• Just don’t argue with numbers and statistics, it has nothing to do in relationship. Instead try to understand the other person’s feelings and emotions.

• Don’t let smaller issues and misunderstandings unresolved; clean it up at the earliest. Few of those small little breaches would ultimately pile up together into a greater concern.

• Spend some quality time with your partner. (Please note, watching television together is not spending quality time)

• Learn to appreciate little things in life. Give some small little gifts often. It need not be expensive, just a single rose would do wonders.

• Readily show your respect and love as often as possible with both physiological and psychological intimacy.

• Learn to address the problem and not the person. (Simply don’t blame your partner if things don’t go as expected, quickly look for alternate solutions)

• Understand that conflicts are inevitable in a relationship and handling them effectively would lead to a longer, stronger and happier married life.

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Opportunities are always plenty in this vast world, but how many of us are ready to grab that in our life…? At least how many of us are aware of the opportunities we come across in our lives…?

Family and society in which we are born are a chance given to us by creation, but what we become in life is a choice left for us. Chance is something decided upon us, which is beyond our control. Choice is something that we can decide for us, which is completely in our hands to choose. Many of us think that our life is predestined and nothing can be done beyond that.

We have all said at some point of time in our life or often hear people saying:

“It’s all fate”, “Luck is not in my side”, “According to my horoscope”, “It’s bad time for me”

Yes, it is going to be really bad time until we wake up and look for opportunities in life.

Opportunity knocks our door only once. That single moment in our life comes only once and never returns. We may end up getting similar opportunities later on in time, but the one that came will never come again.

A young man wished to marry the farmer’s beautiful daughter. He went to the farmer to ask his permission. The farmer looked at him and said, “Son, go stand out in that field. I’m going to release three bulls, one at a time. If you can catch the tail of any one of the three bulls, you can marry my daughter.”

The young man stood in the field awaiting the first bull. The barn door opened and out came the biggest, meanest looking bull he had ever seen. He decided that one of the next bulls had to be a better choice than this one, so he ran over to the side and let the bull pass through.

The barn door opened again. He had never seen anything so big and fierce in his life. It stood pawing the ground, it eyed him. Whatever the next bull was like, it had to be a better choice than this one he thought. He ran to the fence and let the bull pass through.

The door opened a third time. A smile came across his face. This was the weakest bull he had ever seen. This one was his bull, he said to himself. As the bull came running by, he positioned himself just right and jumped at just the exact moment. He threw his hands to grab…..But alas…. The bull had no tail.

There are three kinds of people in this world: First, the ones who make things happen. Second, the ones who see things happen. Third, the ones who wonder what happened?

If we are a kind of person who is attentive to things around us, I am sure we could readily recognize that. If we are a kind of person who is keen on achieving great things in life, I am sure we would definitely make the best used of opportunities given.

An individual may possibly have number of abilities and talents, yet he or she could be a miserable failure. Unless the person is aware of her abilities and has the courage to act upon it, she is going to be a failure. Great people knew their abilities and make the best use of at least one of their talents, excel in that, reach greater heights.

Great men and women don’t wait for the right opportunity to come at their door steps; instead they act upon to create the opportunity in order to move ahead in their path of great achievements. These are the people those who make things happen. They don’t sit and wait for the opportunities to come to them; instead they desperately go in search of opportunities and put in all their efforts to make things happen.

Michael Dell says, “Don’t spend so much time trying to choose the perfect opportunity, that you miss the right opportunity. Whether you’ve found your calling, or if you’re still searching, passion should be the fire that drives your life’s work.”

Unless you are planning suicide, there is no better time then right now to start doing what you have been thinking about doing for far too long. The key is to listen to your heart and let it carry you in the direction of your dreams. Just open your mind to different possibilities, different ways of examining an object, a problem or a challenge, and it can provide you with many inspirations and fresh ideas.

Another key point is to act diligently upon the opportunity grabbed. Many of us though get right opportunity; fail to make the best use of it. We end up doing mundane activities those are useful neither for ourselves nor for others. This is because our mind is tied up with petty little things that will give quick gratification. Basic tendency of human mind is to look for quick results at present and immediate pleasure now rather than long term satisfaction at later stage. We should constantly tame our mind to seek permanent happiness in life and not look for instant pleasure. We should constantly focus our thoughts and efforts towards vital and precious activities that will take us forward in our path of success.

With the ability to identify right opportunity, attitude to honestly work on it and sincerity to make the best use of it; making great things happen is an absolute possibility in this world.

Let’s make great things happen.

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Anbusivam

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Yes, it’s all about “You”.

What you can do for YOU:

– Take quality time off from your daily chores to give yourself.

– Enjoy your own company.

– Be happy and feel good about you.

– Treat yourself with great love and utmost respect.

– Feel you are more worthy and most deserving.

– Look for the positive and good qualities in yourself.

– Focus on these great qualities you love about yourself.

– Have a great belief in your own abilities.

– Have a positive regard and respect for yourself.

– Even kiss yourself often to appreciate yourself.

You are the designer of your destiny. You are the director of your own movie called life. You are the one and only authority having complete control over your life’s choices. So, better take good care of yourself.

Ultimately it’s all about “You”. i.e YOU, YOU and YOU

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Attitude, with Action is everything……and that’s what I’ve learnt last week from a simple person at our office gym.

Let us become wiser and lead a happy, healthy, prosperous and peaceful life.

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Anbusivam