Resolve the Conflict or Dissolve the Relationship
Dear Friends,
Welcome to Anbusivam’s Blog Page.
Completing my Diploma in Counselling Skills from Banjara Academy last year gave me a great feeling. I said to myself “Yeah, I am a counsellor now, I can solve anyone’s problem and I’ll be the savior for every one around”. But it didn’t take much time to understand the truth. As a counselor I could only provide all possible support in enabling them to sort out their own issues.
Dr.Ali and Mr.Raja gave us thorough knowledge and excellent training on all basic counselling skills required to understand, empathise and support people in any circumstance. Using this as a platform I decided to proceed further in a specialised facet of counselling where I could concentrate more particularly on to a specific area in human relationship so as to focus more in detail and depth.
I decided to focus and learn further on Marital Counselling. To my best I got married at this right time and it’s been really wonderful to learn the minute details of a very close relationship in life. Thanks to my dearest wife Sangeetha.
The most inevitable issue in any relation is handling conflicts. Especially in a marital relationship conflicts are supposed to be integral part of life. Things would be pretty fine as long as two are just friends, lovers or colleagues, but when the same relation is taken to a very close and intimate relationship such as marriage obviously one cannot hide behind the a mask of being too good for long time. Very soon the bare personality of oneself has to come out and if that is not what the other person expects, there starts a huge problem in the relationship.
First and fore most decide if you want to resolve the conflict or dissolve the relationship. Resolving the conflicts amicably is the most critical necessity in a marital relationship or else the relationship will cease to dissolve.
Few tips to avoid conflicts or to handle them in a better way are:
- Communicate, Communicate and Communicate.
- Just don’t argue with numbers and statistics, it has nothing to do in relationship. Instead try to understand the other person’s feelings and emotions.
- Don’t let smaller issues and misunderstandings unresolved; clean it up at the earliest. Few of those small little breaches would ultimately pile up together into a greater concern.
- Spend some quality time with your partner. (Please note, watching television together is not spending quality time)
- Learn to appreciate little things in life. Give some small little gifts often. It need not be expensive, just a single rose would do wonders.
- Readily show your respect and love as often as possible with both physiological and psychological intimacy.
- Learn to address the problem and not the person. (Simply don’t blame your partner if things don’t go as expected, quickly look for alternate solutions)
- Understand that conflicts are inevitable in a relationship and handling them effectively would lead to a longer, stronger and happier married life.
Thanks for Visiting my Blog.
With Love,
Anbusivam
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